Late Night Ramblings of a Girl Who’s Country is Sadly Leaving the EU

In 1973 Britain finally joined the European Economic Community.

Yesterday 52% of the country decided they’d had enough and wanted to leave the EU. These voters all have their own reasons and good on them for being one of the 72% of the population that voted but for those of us who don’t want to leave the EU community we’re shocked at the outcome and worried for our futures.

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Today, the day after what Nigel Farage deemed “Independence Day”, we’re watching from behind our fingers at the fallout from this vote. This morning definitely woke us up and the information being thrown at us throughout the day as ensured we won’t have a good nights sleep for weeks.

Now even though we’ve voted to leave we won’t officially be out on our own for at least 2 years. This is because of Article 50. This official sounding phrase is a rule in the Lisbon Treaty that, if enacted, starts the process of a country leaving the EU. After David Cameron resigned as the Prime Minister today he made it clear he wouldn’t be the one to invoke the article; the next PM would, giving us until at least October for it to get going. We will then see two years of “negotiating” between us and the other 27 EU countries on things like trade deals, imports and exports, immigration and expats and simple things like healthcare for holiday goers. If we get this sorted in two years we’re good to go if not we can possibly get an extension.

This is obviously long winded and leaves us in the dark for a while. We will suffer financial difficulties even though the Governor of the Bank of England, Mark Carney, as made £250 billion available to the banks so they’re definitely prepared. The stock exchange is slowly rising after this morning’s shock result and currency is slowly moving in the right direction.

You’ll probably hear a lot about referendums in the coming weeks and months and CaptureJPGlooking at how different areas voted there is good reasons why. All 32 areas in Scotland voted to remain in the EU but would have to leave with us unless they gained independence. This could be in the pipeline but probably won’t happen until Article 50 is wrapped up. There’s also been an indication that London Mayor Sadiq Khan is not happy with London leaving the EU. The majority of London voted to stay and were in the top 10 of highest remain votes (Gibraltar topped with 96%) Imagine if London did get the option to host a referendum, what would happen to Parliament? There could also be the rumblings of referendums in Europe so far France and The Netherlands have voiced a may do of an in-out vote.

We’ve heard from world leaders who are shocked but willing to work to keep a good relationship with us but how long will this last when we put our demands on the table? Our love/hate relationship as been there since we joined and it won’t be going anywhere in the last 2 years. Whoever becomes the next PM will have to have their head screwed on to get the country through the negotiations intact and hopefully all of Great Britain and Northern Ireland still together as a great nation. They’ll also have to try their damnedest to keep Spain from co-owning Gibraltar and Ireland from merging into one. Good luck!

We’re in for a long, tough ride which will see everything we know change and maybe not for the better but until the ball gets rolling and we come out the other end an independent country we have to keep our heads clear and keep an eye on all the situations because it will all affect our lives in some way, and our sanity.

 

 

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International Women’s Day 2016

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Ladies and gentlemen! Today is a pretty awesome day for all the sexes. Today is a day where we appreciate women, where we strive for equality, talk feminism, and basically tell the world why ladies are kick ass and why our issues matter. Each IWD has a different focus and this years is to focus on the Planet 50-50 by 2030 which is a United Nations backed scheme to help see women gain better equality and prospects by the Transforming our world: the 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development comes around in 2030.

56c4be02e74370e73f0f7876e318fa63As you’ve probably seen a lot of the British (and worldwide) press and media organisations are really taking to the subject of today and Twitter and other social networks are all aflutter with you lovely people joining in. We’re seeing the Guardian have a live blog and asking people ‘What does equality mean to you?’ The Independent have a pretty cool 10 ways you can make a difference article that takes into account the likes of donating to rape charities and looking at everyday chores in the household and see who does them most. I really like Google’s doodle for the day and the hashtag they’ve created #OneDayIWill It really gets us involved and they’ve also got some videos of women from all over the world doing things we might not necessarily see as feminine just drilling in what International really means!

We at Well Did You Evah thought we’d try something a bit different. We could talk about equality and feminism till the cows come home. I could tell you how it’s going to take about 118 years for the gender pay gap to become level or how women in some countries still don’t have their basic rights and needs met. I could tell you about how in this country a lot of careers still have a large ratio of male to women staff and don’t get me started on the top jobs.

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The ratio of women in political power compared to men

After seeing what others have been writing about today we thought we’d stick with actual women who have made a difference, are making a difference or are just so cool we’re proud to have them be the same sex as us. We’re going to pick figures from history, actresses, writers and artists and most definitely throw a few in their who you may not have thought of but we think deserve to be in the mix. This in no way means no one else should be on our list, we’re just picking the ones we shortlisted because to begin with we could have created an entire month.

 

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This will give us a few days worth of posts so, drum roll please, we’d like to introduce you to Well Did You Evah’s Ladies week!

Late Night Ramblings of a Girl Who’s (Insert Appropriate Feelings Here)

The title might be confusing and that’s because I, myself, am confused. I’m being told I’ll feel better and yet I’m still waiting for this better state of mind to make it’s visit. It’s like waiting for the end of the world.

tumblr_o2xyfgMezo1uqf03zo1_1280This is the first time depression as struck me badly since I started my new job 4 months ago so I’m scared of how to act and what to say. Will anyone notice that I’m different to how I usually am? I feel like curling up in a ball and doing nothing. This is what I did on Saturday and now I feel even worse because I wasted an entire day and didn’t go out for Cat’s birthday like we planned. It also doesn’t help that my endometriosis as flared up and I feel like my stomach is being ripped apart.

Everything’s built up and it’s hit me all at once like it always does. You’d think i’d be used to this sneak attack by now but I never ever learn. I feel better for a while and then slowly, ever so slowly, things go back to that deep dark place that I never seem to find a way out of. I feel bad for feeling that way and I feel so hopeless that I self harm. People still don’t understand that I feel better then. It helps until someone gives me a sad look which makes me feel pathetic. I really don’t need your looks of disgust. I need your help and support. I need someone to stand by me and NOT tell me everything will be okay. Don’t ever tell me that. It just makes you a liar and gives me false hope.

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I was talking to my friend Tom who’s a doctor in Australia he’s helping me see a bit of light this time. He’s also helping me deal with my fear of applyingcharlie-brown-depressed to do a postgraduate degree. I’ve been thinking about it for sometime and feel I’m worthless so won’t be able to do it. I look at the application form and have a mini panic attack. My mind tells me I won’t be able to handle it and my depression will make it even worse. I’m actually excited to get doing something and be occupied by studying again. I just have to find appropriate references and hope for the best.

This is what depression does to me. I’m worthless, petty and pathetic. A lot of the time I feel useless and sometimes when I don’t grasp something new I feel like I’ll never get it. I know we all feel like this at times but imagine feeling like this most of the week. Then add nervousness in to the mix. It’s true folks, Natalie is a wreck.

I will feel better soon but until then I need to push myself to fill out those forms and try not to worry about the small things. I also need to move off the sofa else there’ll be an imprint of me there forever and I’m running out of tv to watch.

Late Night Ramblings of a Girl who’s struggling to cope. Again.

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I’ve been doing pretty well with my depression and anxiety. I know I’m doing well because I myself feel brilliant. I feel like a completely different person. In the past 6 months I’ve changed jobs met new colleagues who’ve become friends. Come to like the job I’m doing and actually feel comfortable in what I do. I’ve been offered jobs and had no anxieties about turning them down. It’s been excellent.

Then I lost one of my permanent journalism jobs. Which in turn led to me not having enough money to go for the house I want. I also realised that this time last year i spent every waking, and in some cases every sleeping, hour in a hospital watching my best friend die.

Yeah. In 2 days I turn 25 but in 8 days Jess will have been gone a year.

This is destroying me. I can’t help it and I don’t really want it to stop but it’s making me a completely different person to who I’ve been for the past 6 months. It’s made me feel like a fake because the new friends I have where I work really don’t know anything about me. I’m now anxious all the time that it’ll somehow make them hate me or see me as weak. I’m paranoid that i’ll be watched closely because something might trigger me to be sad.

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The friend I spoke to about all this isn’t here anymore and I haven’t seen my counsellor in 6 months because silly me thought ‘hey new job, new me. I can totally pull all this off!’ I was so wrong it hurts. I haven’t felt like this in years. Before it’s always felt like something I can snap out of, this feels like it’s here for much longer. Mixing depression, anxiety and heartache together is a stellar combination and one which I don’t think I’ll come out of unscathed. I’m at the point where someone says the wrong thing and I feel like crying. I can’t handle a situation at work and I go all quiet and retreat into my little dark place where no one can hurt me but on the outside I’m basically blank and ignoring you. Not good in a customer based environment.

As it get’s closer to Jess’ anniversary I think I’ll get worse. At the moment I get teary eyed when her favourite songs come on and I’m having 2am conversations with another of our friends. It’s bizarre but it’s how it’s all playing out.

In the end I’m stuck with depression and anxiety. I just wish I had a warning system for when it’s going to strike and how bad it’s going to be because let’s face it thinking everyone is looking at you and you have no idea why isn’t the best way to go about your day.

Late Night Ramblings of a Girl Who Wants To Talk About Depression

Well. I wanted to write something and now I’m here I don’t quite know what to say.d6a105b7142ac8c95e47de3c89b541ac I’m fed up and slowly destroying myself at the moment. I don’t quite know what to say when someone talks to me and yet afterwards I think of the perfect thing to say; I’m down and hurting and I want it to stop. I find it hard to talk, writing is much easier for me but many people don’t understand this. When I write I can separate myself from everything. I can tell myself no one will ever see this or the people who will see it I’ll never ever see or they’ll be that afraid by what I’ve written they won’t say anything to me. Either way I don’t mind. It’s just nice to vent and get it all out there every so often.

At the moment I’m in hell. I feel like a zombie, I don’t care for anything and don’t care to do anything either. I had a job interview and an assessment for a job that was shocking and I’d never do even if I was jobless. Because I’m not feeling great this has knocked me back a bit more. I feel like, at the moment, I can’t try to fix myself because I want to help fix my sister who’s currently in a psychiatric ward. As you all know she’s bipolar and she’s in there to help herself. She’ll be doing well with the right help and the right environment around her but I miss her a lot. I don’t want to burden my mum about my problems because I know she’s worried about Cat. She goes every day after work and visits her for a while. What rights do I have to put my problems on her? I should be helping so I put a smile on my face and get on with it even though inside I’m slowly giving up.

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This is exactly what it’s like. c. Hyperbole and a Half

 

I admit now that I suffer from depression. I don’t have it all the time but every so often it sneaks up on me and tries to make me give up. It tries to hurt me, my family and those I love around me and this makes me feel worse.
70d7f75664505bd1bee163ac20c2c08aMental Health still has a stigma in this country and I think that’s made me deny having depression for a while. I self harm but I always made it sound like a normal problem yet it is linked to my depression. I don’t want people to automatically think “oh she’s the one with depression” or “she needs to snap out of it.” People with mental health problems hate this. We really are no different to you in most ways. If I could just stop self harming don’t you think I would? Do you really think I like all the sympathetic and sad looks I get when someone sees a plaster or the cuts on my arms? For Gods sake I’m 24 and I don’t feel in control of my life! I feel like I’ll never be right according to what you think is right. I can be happy and then I get paranoid and afraid that someone will see my mask slipping, they’ll see the ugly side of me. It’s so tiring keeping the happy “yeah I’m okay” mask on all the time. But making people understand is even worse.

We are people too. Just remember that. Some of us need extra help and some of us need help and time just admitting that we need extra help. Sometime soon I might be brave enough to let my mask slip completely but for now I need to stay strong for my sister and for those of us going through a tough time. Most of all I need to stay strong for myself because who else will do it for me?

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Happy New Year!

Hello dear followers, Old Hollywood Lovers and people who accidentally got to this page!

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We at Well Did You Evah would like to wish you all a very Happy New Year for 2015. Here’s hoping you get good things coming your way, find love and inspiration when you most need it and make new promises while keeping the old.

Don’t lose your love for the old as the old is coming back to make us smile. Yes we’ve lost a few of our beloved stars but 2015 marks the beginning of some big 100th birthdays. 2015 also brings with it some great art exhibitions, West End shows, films and other pretty tempting things that we want to tell you about.

Go forth and make 2015 the best year you’ve ever had!

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Moonko Christmas Gift Guide

Christmas seems to have come around pretty darn fast this year. I’m already seeing Christmas trees up and hearing Christmas songs at the shops. There’s a vast array of jumpers available for those in the Christmas spirit and it’s getting ridiculous the amount of people who I’ve heard have finished their Christmas shopping. Yep already in November.

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It’s sometimes hard finding gifts for loved ones and friends especially when you want something a little different or unique. Independent sellers are a great way to tick all these boxes and you can be happy knowing a lot of hard work and care went into your perfect pressies.

Moonko is one of these brilliant independent sellers. Based in a bright and cheerful shop on Division St, Sheffield you can buy a vast array of wears from many established and up and coming designers. There’s also a lovely website for those to far away from the shop.

Here’s a selection from the store that really caught my eye.

Merchant & Mills Rapid Repair Kit
23uhOybfet7P07EUuaS2FoujkYwThis is a brilliant thing to give as a present because it’s so handy. It holds everything that you might need for those last minute repairs on clothing. I have one and it’s saved me plenty of times when the hems have come down on my trousers. The tin is small and portable and will suit complete novices who need to use it in an emergency up to those who frequently sew. Merchant & Mills are a well known brand in the drapery and tailor world so you can rest assured that the quality is top notch and that you’re giving the best.

Available online and in store for £15

Bonbi Forest Locket

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These look stunning! They’re available in silver or gold plated brass and all the artwork is unique. As you can see there’s a nice selection with some more Christmas themed than others. I love how different they are and how quirky the charm on the chain is. All the illustrations are drawn by Lee May Foster-Wilson and have been drawn with love and care. The lockets are a nice enough size to wear everyday or save for best. I’m sure there’ll be a locket with a design to suit everyones style and tastes. Added bonus they come in a little organza bag to make them extra special.

The store has a nice selection in and they’re available in the jewellery section of the website for a great price of £19

Nathalie Bond Handmade Candle and Soap

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The Handmade Small Candle is £11 and the Handmade soap is £5.

Stoneware Whisky Cup

Everyone needs a wee dram of whisky or a hot toddy during winter so why not have aFRghBNBVy-njFuVLqHPg1yrvNsk proper whisky cup to drink it out of? And if you’re not a whisky fan then use it for the drink of your choice! There is a great range of cups available but these really caught my eye. They’re handmade in Scotland by Tom Butcher so each one is different and has it’s own character. They’ll stand out in any household and be useful to everyone.

Get your own whiskey cup for £10

 

Donna Wilson Squirrel Beaker and Tea Towel

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I love the entire Donna Wilson collection but the squirrels put a big smile on your face. Everyone uses a cup for their morning cuppa so what better gift to send. Tea towels are always useful too especially one that tells you to “Use my tail to dry your dishes.”tvaKLwj3QnUpoCdN2MbqEcjux20 These would be great for students and adults alike. You’ll definitely know who the cup belongs to. The illustrations look great and vibrant and the quality is brilliant with the cup being handmade and printed in Stoke-on-Trent and the tea towel printed there too.

The beaker is available for £15.25 and tea towel for £12.

 

Hopefully this list will have given you some ideas and steered you towards the independent scene for gifts this christmas. Everything should be available in Moonko’s store and online (subject to availability). Locals can also make use of the click and collect service which coincidentally gives you an excuse to go shopping. Don’t get stressed out in big stores this year and remember to treat yourself!

 

Late Night Ramblings of a Girl Who Was Defeated By An Allergy Test

I know I have bad allergies and I know I have anaphylaxis. I know I have a strange condition called Idiopathic Angiodema. To some extent I know what I’m allergic to. I didn’t, however, know I was properly allergic to peanuts, walnuts and brazil nuts until that damn skin test yesterday.

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Yesterday I had to go to the hospital for a skin prick test. For those of you who don’t know what a skin prick test entails or have never been through one I’m happy to tell you all about it.

I had my skin test at the allergy clinic. Here the doctor goes through a list of commonIMG_1577 allergens and ticks off what they want you tested for. In my case I was tested for pollen, tree pollen, weed pollen, peanuts, almonds, hazelnuts, walnuts, brazil nuts and pistachios. They’ll also put a negative and positive test on you. This is all done on your inner arm. The negative and positive tests are put on your arm as control tests. Everyone will have a reaction to the positive one.

I hear you asking how do they know what they’ve tested you for? They write on you in pen. Then they put a little drop of the solution with the allergen in it next to the correct letter. e.g. the walnut solution went next to the W. After they put the drop on your arm in the correct place they stab you with a lancet. Honestly this part doesn’t hurt. You feel a tiny stab for every allergen you’re being tested for. That’s the easy part.

You then have to hope you’re not actually allergic to anything you’re being tested for. If you’re unfortunate to have a skin reaction then you get told not to itch it. I had a reaction to 5 out of 9 things and it felt like my arm was on fire. Or been eaten by ants. It doesn’t hurt really it’s just DAMN UNCOMFORTABLE. 15 minutes later a nurse comes back to measure the “reaction.” It all gets very technical because they measure the weal and the flare (the red bit) with a ruler… Pressed against your itchy skin. The bigger the weal the more they can tell if you’re allergic.

tumblr_m0os6c7kSE1qzr2ctThey give you a guide about a “nut free diet” where you realise all the foods you usually eat and your favourite foods are in there. You mourn the loss of toffee nut lattes and sob when you realise coconuts are classed as nuts in this case.

You also throw a fit over the fact that a nut allergy ruins all chances of you joining the military or feeling safe enough to be a journalist in a conflict zone. Being allergic to flowers is easy, just stay away from them. Many foods in the Middle East contain nuts. Hell many foods here do. At least our medical services aren’t too bad so I know I won’t die.

It’s like feeling trapped. You can only go certain places. You have to ask 100 questions at every restaurant you go to. You sometimes feel that down over it all you just chance it anyway. YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT’S IN THAT LOVELY LOOKING CAKE, and the people behind the counter usually aren’t that sure either. I was comfortable with my allergies before. They were things I could stay away from and nuts were something that were not a dead certainty to cause me harm. Now it’s a strange new nut free zone. And honestly I hate it.

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York Coffee: The Perky Peacock

York is one of those places that suits everyone. It’s historical, touristy, quirky and studenty all at once. It’s even better for hidden gems of the coffee variety. We’ve become quite the York lovers over the years and added together with our love for coffee, cake and artisan foods we thought it was a no brainer to share our knowledge with you.

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Perky Peacock at Lendal Bridge.

One of our all time favourites is The Perky Peacock. Perky is in two locations, one in the tower at Lendal Bridge (blink and you’ll miss it) and the other on Gillygate very close to York St. John Uni. It’s all ran by the wonderful Nicola Peacock and her fantastic team. Nicola knows all there is to know about the food and coffee they sell and can put together an excellent bacon butty on Via Vecchia’s cheese bread. The coffee comes from Origin Coffee Roasters and no matter who makes your drink the coffee is wonderful. All food products are baked freshly every day and sourced locally which should keep everyone visiting York very happy. If you manage to get to the Lendal Bridge one early enough you’ll find yourself being led there by the smell of bacon.

The team put together a great range of sandwiches everyday and the shop at Gillygate do wonderful warm sandwiches and platters to suit everyone’s tastes. The bread PerkyIMG_1553 uses is an art form by itself, none of this plastic bread or stuff that looks rustic, all the bread is supplied by the guys at Via Vecchia so is artisan to the very core and is literally produced 2 minutes away from both shops on the Shambles. Bluebird Bakery also have some input with their temptingly gooey brownies. Honestly you’ll have to take one home. Both sites are completely different to each other but still a great place to chill out with a lovingly made coffee and a slab of cake. The ranges of cakes they have everyday is amazing and their NobHobs rival the Mcvities version.

In Cat’s uni days Nicola even made porridge with marshmallows along with a hot chocolate with marshmallows. Unforgettable really. If you have a take out drink from Perky take a look at the cup and try not to smile.

Things to most definitely try: Bacon butty on cheese bread and a flat white.

Things to look out for: Any cakes that catch your eye and the awesome tote bags. Help promote Perky Peacock! Oh and watch out for the rising water line when it rains badly at Lendal Bridge.

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Late Night Ramblings of a Girl Six Weeks After

Six weeks ago today Jess died. You might remember reading the post I wrote on that day. In it I mention that she left me a letter. I’ve read and re-read that letter so many times and it’s only in the past few days I’ve felt like writing her a response. I actually went to visit her grave and read her my letter and the only other place I feel I should put it is on here for you guys to read.

One of the reasons I feel I should put it on here is because people keep asking me if I’m okay and how I feel now she’s gone. The letter should explain everything. I’m sure she’d think so.

Dear Jess.

Like you I’m having problems putting into words what I want to say to you. I bet your letter to me didn’t take six weeks to write. Mine has actually taken this long because I hated you so much for a time that I felt you didn’t deserve a response. I was furious that you’d left me, then even more so when people were calling me selfish and nasty for hating you even though you’d died. Liam called you a selfish cow and I laughed so much I broke down and cried for the first time since you’d died. I probably hated you for that too. You left me when I still needed you. In fact I will always need you. I sometimes cry when I think about you, don’t worry sometimes they’re happy tears.

Six weeks ago you broke my heart. You held my hand until the end and yet I still get shivers when I think of that moment. You were there and then you weren’t. I wouldn’t wish cancer on anyone but the way it changed you haunts me. Seeing up close how it changed and twisted you makes me realise how strong you were to keep smiling, playing jokes and watching Disney films. You, Doll, were the strength behind us all. I’ll never forget when they found candy floss under your bed and Mars bars under your pillows when they banned you from sugar. We laughed so much after.

You can’t say you hope your death won’t change me. You know I don’t have many true friends but I’m now scared of them dying on me. First Ben and then you. I hated that doctor who told us you had 12 months to live and then 2 months later said you’d be lucky to last the week. Your death has probably changed me for the better. I always think of you and push myself more because of you. You won’t have the opportunities I have. Obviously I’ll mess up but then someone says “Jess would be proud of you” and it makes me smile. My life was falling apart but I’m slowly muddling through it all. Sometimes it doesn’t feel real that you’re gone, six weeks feels like two minutes and then feels like years.

IMG_1546It feels weird talking about you in the past tense so I sometimes speak to you as if you’re Poirot. Yeah he’s settled in well and reminds me of you which is good.

I hope you’re okay on your big adventure and are not alone, I know how much you hated to be alone. Someday we’ll see each other again and I look forward to that day. Until then I suppose I’ll keep talking to your gravestone. Or the rabbit. Either way I’ll be able to tell you all the good, bad and rambly stuff.

Remember I love you and will miss watching films with you. I’ll miss everything as you probably will. Liam misses you too. I’ll also miss you making me read Le Petit Prince to you in French then asking me what it all meant.

I’m glad you didn’t suffer much in the end and no matter what I say I’m glad I was there with you till the end. You did achieve so much and you’ve made us all better people. We’re so proud of you. Go adventure Doll, I know you’ll always be there.

Good night for now and I’ll leave you with this…You’re now invisible because you’re essential.

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